This morning I was sitting at our dining room table. Sunlight was streaming through the front window, our 15-month-old daughter was happily toddling around on her new-found legs, and our 2-year-old was eating breakfast beside me. It was a peaceful moment.
Out of no where, while observing my son contentedly munch his breakfast, I had a flashback to this:
Lima, Peru. 12:30 a.m. Two little girls, maybe four or five years old, begged me for attention while I was out on the streets with a ministry group. I began to play with them and we tumbled onto the filthy street, laughing in a ball of hands and tickles. Another little girl, three years old perhaps, squatted nearby, filling the air with the odor of her waste on the ground.
The mother of one of the children stood nearby, bag in hand to huff the glue inside. She was high, and watched her daughter and me with an empty gaze. After a while, one of the ministry staff came over and told me to move closer to the group because there was some activity on the corner–three bigger, older guys were assaulting someone and robbing him. I thought, “What are we doing here?! What are these children doing here, running around at midnight on this street? Is this real?”
I live a life of privilege. Watching my son and thinking about potty training of all things made me remember those mothers on the streets of Lima. That little girl using the gutter as her toilet, just like a dog… how do you forget something like that?
And that’s just the question I’m wresting with today. Sometimes I do forget. I have pictures of children and teens I knew in Lima… but as I look through them I realize I have forgotten some of their names. I’ve gotten comfortable in my life, my world, and theirs seem so far away.
I desire to be thankful. At the very least, may this be my response after all I saw, and smelled, and felt. I know too much to have an excuse for grumbling!
Earlier that night on the street, a teen who we had a relationship with through the ministry’s day center had come over while we handed out food. I had asked how she was, and she responded by telling me she was sick. Her baby had been sick for a while–I could feel it in his chest when he breathed. They slept on the streets at night, and it had been cold and damp for a while. No medicine, no shelter–no wonder they were sick.
I have resources to help my children when they are unwell. Generally my response to illness is complaint, like how I hate cleaning up puke or wiping noses for the hundredth time. It’s normal, yet when do I ever express thankfulness for my washing machine to throw the sheets into or the box of tissues, let alone a roof over our heads and running water.
When I begin to think about issues of poverty, a strong sense of responsibility wells up within me. I wonder what my role is in meeting the needs of this world. This feels overwhelming. Some of the responses are heart issues, and some are action related. All of them are difficult.
I desire to model generosity for my children. I want us to view our life of privilege as a tool for serving together, and hold possessions and finances loosely so that we can be generous. I want to teach my children to stop and offer dignity to a person in need–to ask their name, shake their hand, look them in the eye. I want our family to go into full-time service caring for people in need, perhaps overseas. I want to be radical like Christ and serve him by giving water to the thirsty, food to the poor, clothing to the naked.
Today it can begin, by remembering. No big move to the slums of Calcutta for now, but small steps of remembering, wrestling, praying.
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After writing this earlier today, I saved the draft and intended to revisit it for final edits. In the meantime, I went about my day kind of forgetting the topic. I stopped by the store late tonight to pick up a couple groceries, and as I drove into the parking lot I noticed an older man standing alone by the curb who appeared a little run down. He looked me in the eye as I drove past, and so I thought about him. When I came back out, he was sitting on a bench, leaned over with a cigarette. I got into my car and began to drive off, but couldn’t shake the sense of concern for him. I circled around, parked, and began to pray. It seemed crazy to go to him, but what if he hadn’t eaten yet today? So I got out of the car, walked over to him and asked if I could sit beside him. I told him that I had noticed him sitting alone and didn’t mean any offense, but wondered if he’d had anything to eat tonight? He said he had eaten at a church. I mentioned the chill in the air and wondered if he had a place to go. He said he did, then continued to tell me about life. He seemed to appreciate having someone listen, so I did for a while. We parted ways after he made me laugh with a joke about God and tattoos, and that was it.
I guess today didn’t just start with remembering the poor, but also offering compassion when I was given an opportunity. It’s still a small step, but it is a start.